Are You Stressing Too Much and Driving Yourself Crazy?

I don’t know about you, but sometimes I have a serious problem stressing way too much about things that ARE in my control.

It sounds a bit ridiculous, doesn’t it? Getting all worked up about things that we can’t control – that’s one thing, but when it’s something we create…well, that’s just silly.

But, yes – it’s something I’ve been doing lately…

In fact, just a few weeks ago I developed a major case of vertigo. If you’ve ever had this, you’ll know that it’s not a whole lot of fun. The room spins, you’re dizzy when you turn your head a certain way, and you feel nausea a lot. The last time I had this was 5 years ago when I was so stressed in a job that I had to go see the doctor. I was booked off for 2 weeks; I couldn’t even drive anywhere or concentrate on what was on TV. It was awful.

It took me two weeks to get rid of it at home this time as well.

What caused this insane amount of stress?

Lake MountainsI DID. No one else. Just me. I’d recently written a book about setting goals and following your dreams (you can find it on Amazon here), and I was stressing myself out about getting it absolutely perfect in a specific time frame.

No one was telling me what to do. I was setting those deadlines and driving myself insane. I was literally being my own worst enemy.

Do you do this at all?

I don’t know about you, but I put an enormous amount of pressure on myself. Especially as I’m working from home. I never feel like what I do is enough. It always feels like I should be doing more.

But the truth is, I AM doing enough. And you’re probably also doing more than enough. My good writing friend Bill has an awesome blog called Artistry With Words. He offers practical, realistic advice for writers, which can be used for any job you’re in actually. He reminds me every day that I am human. Not a robot. I can only do so much in one day. And it IS good enough, damnit. Check it out….it’s my daily dose of sanity.

That’s what I’ve been doing lately to stop this silly stressing about things that I CAN control.

I read Bill’s blog. I remind myself to BREATHE. I tell myself I’m doing the best that I can at this very moment. I meditate. I exercise the crap out of Jillian Michaels’ DVD. I make something that will make me feel good – ginger and lemongrass tea, a new smoothie concoction, a banana and peanut butter cup; I tell myself to RELAX.

If you find yourself getting stressed and beating yourself up about what you are or aren’t doing….chill out. 

FishermenI promise you, 2 weeks of vertigo – or any other things that happen to your body when you’re stressed – is NOT fun and just isn’t worth it.

I’m not going to lie, it’s a daily practice. Stress is an uninvited enemy who likes to sneak in and surprise us every now and then. We need to beat it back to where it came from and show it who’s boss.

At least that’s what I’m trying to do.

Stop stressing and driving yourself crazy. Relax. Breathe. Take a few minutes. Do something enjoyable. Pat yourself on the back. Stand back. Breathe some more. And try again. This time without the putting yourself down or setting those insane – and often unrealistic – goals or deadlines!

Health and happiness….

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11 Replies to “Are You Stressing Too Much and Driving Yourself Crazy?”

  1. This is my problem. I put way too many expectations on myself. I need to chill – like MAJORly. 🙂
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    1. Melanie Chisnall says: Reply

      Sounds like you need to do something like what Cyndi did….a few days at the beach with no technology! 😉

  2. I definitely do this. As a matter of fact, I was sitting here stressing out over a book project I’m working on and decided to take a break and read some blogs. This was my first stop and it was just what I needed to hear! Thank you for the reminder that I am the one putting the stress on myself!
    I’m taking a few deep breaths right now. 🙂
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    1. Melanie Chisnall says: Reply

      Yay…that’s great to hear!! 🙂

  3. I’d heard about stopping and breathing when you’re stressed about something and I thought it was the dumbest idea ever. However, one day I was having a panic attack and I decided to just try it and it actually worked. I still think it’s a weird way to combat anxiety, but holy cow it works!
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    1. Melanie Chisnall says: Reply

      Haha!! I know what you mean. I also thought it was silly. Like, “Duh! Of course I’m BREATHING”…but when you’re stressed out or anxious, or having a panic attack – you’re not really. It’s amazing what a few deep breaths can do! 🙂

  4. Okay, I must be really stressed out, because I had no idea you had this blog! lol Or my memory is just horrible (which it is…)

    I actually had a bout with vertigo not long ago myself. It’s actually quite scary, I thought I had a brain tumor or something. Ironically, I was just tired, weird right? 😀

    Do you take any supplements? I don’t know if this will help you or not, but it has helped me tremendously. My bout with vertigo only lasted three days, and I blame this. I take megadoses of vitamin C. You’ve probably read my article on Hubpages about it, and I know I say it a lot. But vitamin C really does help with a myriad of health issues. It’s an antihistamine (I used to have an anaphylactic reaction to mushrooms and horrible cat allergies… I have 6 cats), antiviral, antibiotic (it’s also bactericidal), antifungal, and it’s also the antidote for excessive adrenaline (a result of stress as you probably know well). It’s estimated that our ancestors (neanderthals etc) ate 9,000mg to 10,000mg of vitc c PER DAY. Why the RDA is 75mg for women, I have no idea.

    I say this because when we’re stressed we produce too much adrenaline which adversely affects our immune system. It may have triggered your vertigo as well.

    Sorry if this was “preachy” but I know how you’re feeling, and I thought it might help lessen your suffering (I hate to see good people suffer needlessly).

    I’m now following this blog by the way, and I’m going to add you to my Kinect Weight Loss blog, I’m always on the look out for GOOD health blogs, and well, you know I love you! 😀
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    1. Melanie Chisnall says: Reply

      Awww, thanks Mel! I love you too, and your blogs. 🙂 And thanks for that advice. I know you mentioned Vitamin C to me a few weeks ago as well and guess what? I’ve done nothing about it! I’ll make an effort to stock up and add it to the monthly grocery list, because I know I need it badly. That’s exactly why I got vertigo…I know it’s because I was stressed and my immune system was shot. So glad yours only lasted a few days, phew!

  5. I think a lot of it comes from expecting too much of ourselves and not prioritizing. Thanks for sharing, mel!
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    1. Melanie Chisnall says: Reply

      Absolutely! And half the time it’s really silly things that we don’t even have to worry about…

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