I don’t know about you, but sometimes I have a serious problem stressing way too much about things that ARE in my control.
It sounds a bit ridiculous, doesn’t it? Getting all worked up about things that we can’t control – that’s one thing, but when it’s something we create…well, that’s just silly.
But, yes – it’s something I’ve been doing lately…
In fact, just a few weeks ago I developed a major case of vertigo. If you’ve ever had this, you’ll know that it’s not a whole lot of fun. The room spins, you’re dizzy when you turn your head a certain way, and you feel nausea a lot. The last time I had this was 5 years ago when I was so stressed in a job that I had to go see the doctor. I was booked off for 2 weeks; I couldn’t even drive anywhere or concentrate on what was on TV. It was awful.
It took me two weeks to get rid of it at home this time as well.
What caused this insane amount of stress?
I DID. No one else. Just me. I’d recently written a book about setting goals and following your dreams (you can find it on Amazon here), and I was stressing myself out about getting it absolutely perfect in a specific time frame.
No one was telling me what to do. I was setting those deadlines and driving myself insane. I was literally being my own worst enemy.
Do you do this at all?
I don’t know about you, but I put an enormous amount of pressure on myself. Especially as I’m working from home. I never feel like what I do is enough. It always feels like I should be doing more.
But the truth is, I AM doing enough. And you’re probably also doing more than enough. My good writing friend Bill has an awesome blog called Artistry With Words. He offers practical, realistic advice for writers, which can be used for any job you’re in actually. He reminds me every day that I am human. Not a robot. I can only do so much in one day. And it IS good enough, damnit. Check it out….it’s my daily dose of sanity.
That’s what I’ve been doing lately to stop this silly stressing about things that I CAN control.
I read Bill’s blog. I remind myself to BREATHE. I tell myself I’m doing the best that I can at this very moment. I meditate. I exercise the crap out of Jillian Michaels’ DVD. I make something that will make me feel good – ginger and lemongrass tea, a new smoothie concoction, a banana and peanut butter cup; I tell myself to RELAX.
If you find yourself getting stressed and beating yourself up about what you are or aren’t doing….chill out.
I’m not going to lie, it’s a daily practice. Stress is an uninvited enemy who likes to sneak in and surprise us every now and then. We need to beat it back to where it came from and show it who’s boss.
At least that’s what I’m trying to do.
Stop stressing and driving yourself crazy. Relax. Breathe. Take a few minutes. Do something enjoyable. Pat yourself on the back. Stand back. Breathe some more. And try again. This time without the putting yourself down or setting those insane – and often unrealistic – goals or deadlines!
Health and happiness….