Taking a Break… And a Few Revelations

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Hey guys,

This post is a little different to the others. I’m sitting here writing this on a Sunday afternoon after a week of ups and downs. I’ve done a little soul searching and made a few decisions this weekend.

Mainly about writing.

I started Good Health Buzz because I have an overwhelming general love for all things healthy and for fitness, and I wanted to share that. I wanted to write about my journey to starting running and eating vegetarian and gluten-free.

And I’ve loved doing that.

But to be honest, I’ve lost a lot of the joy of writing here because I started to think that I HAD to put something amazing on here every week. It was never intended to be a source of income, just a fun hobby. Yet that’s how I started treating it this year. 

Writing is hard. It’s an ever evolving learning process I guess. I discovered a few other things while I was thinking about this over the weekend…

Copywriting in the long run is not for me. I don’t have a thick enough skin and don’t ask me to be creative in 15 minutes because you won’t get quality work. Freelance writing is unpredictable to say the least. Jobs come and go. I want more control over my income and some stability.

I love inspiring people and  motivating them to be the best version they can be of themselves.

That’s why I started a wellness website called Imagine You last  month.

I feel like I’ve found something that makes sense to both my heart and my head.

That’s the reason I haven’t been writing here as often as I used to – I’ve been putting all my energy into this new project. 

So I’m taking a little break from Good Health Buzz. Right now I’m trying to do too many things and I need to put my focus where my heart and head is. And that’s just not here at the moment. Maybe in a few months or weeks… but just not right now. And I refuse to just slap things together simply for the sake of having something here. I’d rather have nothing than some lame copy just for the sake of publishing something.

Direction & Passion

A lot of the topics I write about here I also write about on Imagine You (health, happiness, calm & zen, fitness, etc.)  – but in shorter articles with tips and videos and research. Eventually I hope to get other writers on board, but it’s a slow process. I have SO much planned for this new venture and I know it’s going to take a while to get off the ground. It’s not easy – I’ve still got a lot to learn. (Looking at the figures of some of my social media pages is frightening and frankly really demotivating. BUT as my good writing buddy Bill says, “You can’t expect success to happen, even if you want it to. It’s going to take time.”)

He’s 100% right. Patience and persistence are two of my biggest vices I need to work on.

If I wasn’t a writer I’d probably just want to be surrounded by these guys all day long. 🙂

I’ve also realised that I’ve been going about things the wrong way lately. I’ve been expecting too much and not giving enough. You know that little thing called karma? Yes, that.

I came to some other conclusions this weekend after chatting to two good friends – and while lying in the sun yesterday (the winter sun was AMAZING)…

The Real Me…

Things that have made me go, “Oh, NOW I get it!” A bit of it has to do with who I am as a person – this shy, introverted, creative person who has always felt like an outsider. I’ve lost “friends” and been judged because I don’t talk a lot when I meet new people or when I’m in a large group. I guess some people might think of me as stuck up or a little rude. I’m not that at ALL – it’s just hard for me to get out of my shell sometimes – harder than most people can ever imagine.

Not really sure why I’m getting into all this now – I guess things have just become a lot clearer lately and it feels good to get it off my chest. And I know one or two people might read this and cringe because it’s letting my true colours show… but that’s EXACTLY the point.

I want to be me. Who cares if it’s showing a weaker side.

Luckily, I’ve got some pretty amazing friends who’ve taken the time to get to know the real me. (The girl who paints her nails blue and tells her boss to make a more positive work environment. The girl who dances like no one’s watching on the rare occasion of going to a club (not infested with teeny boppers)).

So this weekend I made the decision to stop trying to get people to like me. In person, online, and through my writing.

Life is just too short to not be as authentic as you can be. And I haven’t been as much as I could be. This is the first raw post I’ve written in a really long time and it feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Not that anything else I’ve written isn’t true – that’s all the real me – just sometimes it feels good to let that wall come down a bit.

I know I also have a bad habit of judging people on first impressions as well, so that’s something I’ve got to work on.

New Project

Last quick update… I’ve started working on a new little side project (tied in with Imagine You). I haven’t put it out there because I have a really bad habit of not following through on certain things. So that’s staying wrapped up tightly until it’s 100% finished. 

Okay, I’m done. The end of this long waffle is over!

Thanks for supporting and reading this blog and I hope to catch you over on the new website sometime soon – or just pop over on Facebook or Twitter to say Hi!

P.S…

In the spirit of good karma and giving back and sharing, I invite anyone who would like to do a guest post on Imagine You, OR who has a wonderful business or product that ties in with helping people to grow (health, wellness, education, etc.), or just some awesome feel-good stuff they want to share, to contact me. (Email to info@imagineyou.co.za.)

M x

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17 Replies to “Taking a Break… And a Few Revelations”

  1. Thanks I came by your website through karma or by accident.I love the authenticity and hey this is what truly connects with the readers. I sent the link off to my cousin. She loves it. I will check out imagine you. Great name.

    I am also interested in helping others find their path as I muddle through mine after deciding to kick the high flying career path young, inspiring my young adults to find their passion divorced and moved out of a large metropolitan city to a medium sized university town. I love the energy and life is slower here. The rebuilding is slow and arduous but I know I will achieve my goal. Your website helps keep me focused and that is to tap into the real me and not what others want of me nor what or who I need to be to please others.. If I can help you out let me know. I am not a professional writer but I like to write and I love your mission.

    1. Melanie Chisnall says: Reply

      Hi Janice! Oh wow, thank you so much for your kind words, that’s so humbling and inspiring to read 🙂

      Have you thought about starting a blog, or do you blog? It sounds like you have a passion to inspire people and that’s amazing. I say go with it!! Create something inspiring for others who need that bit of motivation. I don’t write on here as often as I used to, but that might just change soon – I’ve forgotten how much love I poured into this blog. Your comment inspired me to take another look, thank you!

  2. I like what you have done with your writing, Mel

    I am a subscriber of your magazine and enjoy reading about exercises and goals. Even though my legs are not so strong (cause of arthritis) but your writings have inspired me to walk and eventually did a 5K walk ~2 months back 🙂

    Sure, I would love to contribute to your magazine/newsletter. However, I don’t have much to contribute towards physical health but have quite a few articles on our inner well being, which is also essential to our complete setup. Let me know if that is fine…will send across an article soon.

    Hugs!
    xoxo
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  3. I have been waiting for this post from you. And even though we’ve only just ‘met’ I totally understand where you are coming from. I shall miss these posts but I will see you in your new space. Be happy!
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    1. Melanie Chisnall says: Reply

      Thanks Tandy! I’m so glad we met this year & I’m sure we’ll meet up for a coffee in our beautiful Helderberg sometime soon. 🙂 Enjoy the sun today!

  4. Mel, I think this is fantastic. As writers, we can easily get distracted by all of the projects we’re doing, want to do or have done and forget what our priorities are. Interestingly, I’ve recently had a similar “revelation.” You probably know I’m pagan, but in the past few years, I haven’t really been practicing. In the past two weeks I’ve had this overwhelming urge to get back to nature and my foundational pagan beliefs. So I kind of know what you’re going through and I applaud you for taking this step and moving forward. It’s tough to do. As an introvert myself, I also know what it’s like to be judged simply because you don’t say much in a crowd. If there’s anything I can do to help you, please let me know. I sent you a message via Facebook too.

    I wish you all the best Mel, hope to chat soon. Keep up the awesome writing!
    Mel
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    1. Melanie Chisnall says: Reply

      Hi Mel! That sounds great about getting back into nature and your beliefs. Everything is just so much clearer being in nature, don’t you think? 🙂 I need to do more of that. I got your message and will reply a little later in the day. Thanks so much! Chat soon 🙂

  5. People don’t like you because of your efforts to get them to like you. They either like you, or don’t like you, because they like what you are. You can only be yourself for the truth to flow. Otherwise, you’re simply playing a role in a play … a role that you either become or one that you will cast aside sooner or later when the real you finally surfaces. We change daily in our thoughts and opinions if we keep an open mind, and most of all, learn to tolerate the opinions and beliefs of others. When we cut ties with those that don’t always agree with our way of thinking, we limit our growth and understanding. We were all made different by the lives we live and the experiences that affect us. God, wouldn’t it be different if we were all the same. Find yourself, share with others, grow from others, and let the cards lay where they fall. I have a feeling you’re going to come out just fine. 🙂

    1. Melanie Chisnall says: Reply

      As always you have a way of cutting to the truth in a way that makes complete sense. Thanks Rich – I needed to hear that and you’re absolutely right. “Let the cards lay where the fall” – I love that. Going to take to heart what you’ve written here.

  6. Well, I, for one thing you’re simply and absolutely amazing. Whatever you do, whatever your write just has a special feel-good touch to it that I adore. I will follow you, dear friend, wherever on the web you may find yourself. 😉
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    1. Melanie Chisnall says: Reply

      Awwww – that’s so good to read, thank you!! And vice versa my friend across the pond. Have a super day – catch up during the week 😉

  7. Aw, how could anybody not like Melchi? I bet you’ve got a lot less critics (and a lot more true fans) than you realize. Not to say that I know your life better than you do haha. But I just say that because that what I experience a lot in my own life. I’m my own worst critic, my own worst enemy, my own personal, grey rain cloud. Even with all the progress I’ve experienced in my life lately with anxiety and depression, it’s still a struggle. I may not freak out like I used to or have random crying spells like before, but I’m still the same old me, still having the ups and downs in my brains haha.

    Anyways, I’m bummed to see you dropping this project to start another from scratch, but I totally get it. I do the same thing, and have been doing the same thing, for the past 2+ years since getting into this online thing. I’ve started and dumped several blogs in that time, and I’m starting up a new one as we speak, so I totally get it. It feels good to move on and start something new. I suppose it feels even better to push through with an older project until it succeeds, but I don’t have much experience with that lol.

    Anyways, good luck to you on your new site, Mel. I will go take a look at it.

    Aloha, Chris
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    1. Melanie Chisnall says: Reply

      Chris – yes! Exactly… I hear you. Critics – to tell you the truth, I’m not so worried about that anymore. I think there will always be critics out there for all kinds of reasons. Before last week I was constantly trying to please everyone and worried about every word I wrote. What will people think?? No more. There’s a heck of a lot more to life! 🙂 And I completely get what you’re saying about the trying new things and the anxiety and all that. It’s hard… writing for yourself is not a joke. I am pushing with this new thing because it’s something I want to see through in the long run. But one step at a time. I’m going to go check out your blog too – I feel like I’ve missed so much. Have a good one and thanks for dropping in here to say hi 🙂

  8. Aww, Melanie I hope you know I absolutely adore and love you. I know the feeling well and have stepped back a bit myself for the summer right now to try to get my priorities realigned and organized, too. Therefore, I definitely understand and am always here to support whatever venture you are working on and just happy to call you a friend. Hope you are relaxing and enjoying the end of your weekend now 😉
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    1. Melanie Chisnall says: Reply

      Janine the feeling is very mutual… thank you my friend! I know we’ll continue to follow each other no matter what directions we go in. 😉 xx

  9. Those of us who have gotten to know you love the person we have met. You are fabulous, and I wouldn’t want you any other way, Mel, so be you, do what moves you, and above all, enjoy writing…writing should be an adventure every single time you sit down to the computer. If it isn’t, then take a break and follow other passions. Whatever you do, you will always have a friend in me.

    1. Melanie Chisnall says: Reply

      Bill, this means a lot – thank you my friend! I’m so glad I stumbled upon HubPages and met you when I was working in accounts and thought I’d try writing some articles for fun on the side. You’ve taught me a lot in these 3.5 years and continue to inspire me – not just in writing. You’re right as usual… Writing SHOULD be an adventure every time. Thanks for the reminder. 🙂

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