I remember the first few months of high school as if it was yesterday…
We’d just moved from Namibia and I was so shy that I didn’t open my mouth up to anyone on the first day. Eventually, I landed up in a group of a few girls. I became quite buddy-buddy with one of them in particular…it seemed like we had so much in common (let’s call her Lesley).
Over the next few months, Lesley became the type of friend to me that bordered on a toxic friendship. In some ways she was a real friend, but after she moved away a year later, it became quite clear that she hadn’t been.
For most of our friendship, I’d probably consider her to be one of those ‘fake friends‘. The ones who don’t really care about you or your feelings. They just think about themselves.
Only years later did I realise how badly she’d treated me and how much crap I took from her. I would never allow someone to do that to me today.
She constantly put me down in front of other people, criticised me, and made me feel stupid on quite a few occasions. No….I don’t know how I put up with it either…The friendship wasn’t all bad – we had a lot of fun hanging out most of the time, but there was always this underlying imbalance of our friendship.
I wrote this article below for All4Women recently on signs to watch out for when dealing with ‘friends’ like this. I learnt a lot while researching for this article – I only wish I’d known about some of these signs all those years ago…
Sometimes a friendship can be salvaged, and sometimes it’s better to cut your losses and just move on.
Have you ever done this before?
Have you ever said goodbye to a friendship because you felt like you were investing more in the relationship than what the other person was?
Tell us about it in the comments below!
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