How to Live in the Moment without Regret


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Make the choice to LIVE your life

It all started with a movie I watched over December, which put a LOT of things into perspective.

One of my goals for 2014 is making more of an effort to live in the moment. Sometimes I manage to get it right, but most of the time I have this problem floating “back to earth” because my head’s stuck so far up those big, white fluffy clouds.

It’s hard to see what’s right in front of me.

Do you ever feel like that?

These Christmas holidays, I started thinking about things that I really want out of life and what’s stopping me from getting them.

Guess what most of the answers were? That’s right… ME.

So, I’ve got a couple of things I want to work on this year. I don’t want my life to pass me by because I was too scared, daydreaming about the future or regretting things from the past. There’s a reason why they call the present a gift.


Let go of all the crap

live in the moment3Deciding to live your life more positively and to really live in the moment is eye-opening. You start to see things clearer – sometimes in a whole new light.

Suddenly you don’t have time for all the drama. For the put downs or insincere promises. You start to really take notice of who your true friends are. And the fake and toxic ones who weigh you down like dark, gloomy clouds.

You also realise whose opinions really matter. People can be spiteful, thoughtless, jealous or just downright rude sometimes. It’s only in the last few months that I’ve started letting things like that go instead of obsessing about them.

For me, this year is all about nurturing and mending special relationships with family and friends. A few of them are ones that I unintentionally pushed aside because I “didn’t have time.”

I’m also taking a step back from one or two friendships that feel very one-sided at the moment. I’ve always believed that a relationship is a two-way street… regardless of the circumstances. So for now, I’m taking a breather and rather focusing on those two-sided ones.


Push yourself out of your comfort zone

This is a tough one. It’s so much easier to write about it than to actually DO it.

What were you scared of last year? What didn’t you do because you worried about how others would react or because you thought you didn’t have it in you?

For me, it’s forcing myself to get out more.

As an introvert, I can find a dozen things to keep me busy by myself and I enjoy it. But, lately I’ve come to realise that it’s not something I’m going to remember one day. Me sitting outside reading a book is all very nice – and I’ll never stop having these moments, they’re just who I am – but it’s not what I’ll think about looking back.

Do you have any comfort zones that you want to break out of this year?


Make memories you want to look back on

I snap photos on my phone almost every day. I share them online or just keep them on my computer desktop.

This December I went to a photo place at the mall and got a whole bunch of them printed. Then I bought some frames and put them inside, and I finally updated the photo album that was gathering dust in the bookshelf.

I can’t tell you what an incredible feeling that was!

To have your home filled with photos of loved ones, friends, places you’ve been to, or things you’ve done that bring a smile to your face…

That’s priceless. Absolutely priceless.


And isn’t that what life is all about at the end of the day? To be able to look back one day without regret. To be proud of the life you created for yourself.

My two cents for today… Get out there and do things, see people you want in your life, and LIVE in the moment!



4 Replies to “How to Live in the Moment without Regret”

  1. some important pointers and I agree with you, Mel

    gotta take action to live in the present..
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    1. Melanie Chisnall says: Reply

      Ruchira… much easier said than done, but I’m trying. 🙂

  2. It only took me about 55 years to learn this lesson, Mel. Hey, I never claimed to be a fast learner. 🙂 Great message and oh so important.

    1. Melanie Chisnall says: Reply

      As they say, better late than never, right? 😉 Thanks Bill.

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